Mother’s Day Everyday

Beverly Isom
Blogging While Blue

I traveled to St. Louis, my hometown, this weekend to visit my mother for Mother’s Day and came face to face with the graceful reality of aging. As a baby boomer there are tons of information about everything from health and fitness news and dating websites to care giving coping skills. By 2030, about one in five Americans will be older than 65, we cannot avoid the inevitable certainty of getting older.

Mom-18 years old

Mom-18 years old

Many of my friends and I grew up alongside our mothers, who were teenagers themselves when they became parents. For those young women who wanted better options for their children, they often worked long hours and multiple jobs, while completing high school and college, and in neighborhoods that were less than ideal for raising a family. By default their children were often surrogate parents to their siblings. As the oldest and only girl, that responsibility fell to me. Selflessness was not a sacrifice it was a family value. I never resented the responsibility and these days, my brothers still treat me with a kind of somber respect that implies I am much older than them. But even as a young mother, my mother demanded deference for family that was fairly common in those days. The rules from the young mother were simple: you looked out for one another, you were accountable for one another, and you faced adversaries (real and abstract) as a united front.

Mable567So these days, I schedule my visits with my mother around the events like her doctor’s visits, family gatherings and holidays that typically include everyone crowded in the kitchen and doing more talking and laughing than anything else. So Mother’s Days are treasured moments in my mother’s house as she ages and quite frankly, as her children age.

I am grateful for the sense of family that the young mother instilled in her children so that we might appreciate Mother’s Day—-everyday.